Coaching for life after a controlling or manipulative relationship — for anyone, regardless of gender.
Fault Lines is my own account of a relationship built on manipulation and control, and what it actually took to understand it, leave it, and rebuild afterwards. The title carries a double meaning deliberately — fault as responsibility and blame, and the fault lines that were already there in the foundation, long before the visible cracks appeared.
Names, dates and identifying details are changed throughout. Publication details will follow here once they're confirmed.
The mainstream conversation about coercive control defaults, often without meaning to, to one template of who's affected. That's a real part of the picture, and it isn't the whole of it. Official statistics are built on reporting rates, and reporting rates are shaped by who feels able to come forward and who expects to be believed when they do — which means some experiences are consistently undercounted, not because they're rarer, but because they're less likely to be reported. This work is open to anyone who recognises the pattern, regardless of their own gender or their ex-partner's.
Four stages, not a strict ladder — most people move back and forth through them rather than ticking each one off in order.
Getting to a place, practically and emotionally, where you're no longer managing daily crisis — before any deeper work starts.
What actually happened, named accurately — and, carefully, why. Understanding isn't excusing; it's what lets you put something down instead of carrying it unexamined.
Trust in your own judgement, specifically — usually the thing a controlling relationship damages most quietly.
Not closure as a single event, but a practised way of meeting whatever comes next — without repeating the pattern, and without being defined by what happened.
I've been through what this work addresses, in enough detail to know its texture, not just its headline — that's what the book is. I combine that with a Level 2 Diploma in Counselling Skills, registered Mental Health First Aider training, and ongoing trauma-informed training specific to this area. Lived experience on its own isn't a qualification, and training on its own can feel clinical and distant for a subject this personal. I aim to offer both.
Get in touch and tell me a little about what brought you here — there's no pressure and no obligation.
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